With the development of law, the rural social change causes the rural dispute to present the new characteristic of involving law, complexity, intensity, accumulation and difficulty in mediation, which leads to the weakening and even breaking of the relationship between villagers, the imbalance of social rights and interests, and the difficulty of recovery. The dual failure of the mechanism of rule of etiquette and the mechanism of rule of law in rural areas and the alienation of disputes caused by the failure make the rural social governance in a dilemma. To walk out of this governance dilemma, it is necessary to build a “threeinone integration” of rural governance system, change the way of mediating disputes in rural areas from “maintaining order and stability” to “resolving contradictions and restoring relationships simultaneously”, and innovate the grassroots mediation system and organization construction through the introduction of third party social service organizations and other multiple mediation subjects. The transformation from diversified mechanism to joint construction and governance and sharing mechanism will help achieve the restoration of villagers’relationship in the process of rural dispute mediation, and finally improve the efficiency of rural social governance.