Rural digital governance has emerged as a new trend and driving force of rural governance in the digital-intelligent era. It not only carries the mission of state-led digital integration but also plays a crucial role in shaping the well-being of rural residents. Drawing on the resilience governance theory, this paper constructs an analytical framework of power-technology-life, and argues that the essence of rural digital governance lies in the organic unity and dynamic balance of the three logics. Its focus is not on “technology for technology’s sake”, but on “life-centered governance”. The ultimate goal is not to showcase digital platforms as symbols of modernization, but to embed digital tools into the fabric of rural society to improve villagers’ livelihoods, enhance public services, and respond to villagers’ needs. At present, however, rural digital governance is still dominated by power and technology logics, while the life logic remains marginalized, resulting in three major challenges: structural simplification, “digital suspension”, and disconnection from everyday life. To address these dilemmas, this paper proposes building an inclusive and adaptive model of resilient rural digital governance through three pathways: in terms of governance power, “returning to the villagers” by constructing a Party-led, multi-actor collaborative structure supported by digital governance rules; in terms of technological empowerment, “returning to value rationality” by integrating technical instruments with governance principles to reshape governance processes in their entirety; in terms of everyday life, “returning to the pursuit of a good life” by clarifying the boundaries between public and private rights, enhancing villagers’ digital literacy and capacities, meeting villagers’ life needs, and building a rural digital life community.